Agree. Totally. I have spent many, many hours with loved ones who were relegated to nursing homes. During one stay where my wife was staying I decided to write a poem: A Vast Sea of Stars 6.14.2018 / (a true story) Death came by while you were asleep He paused at your room where another slept Yet tarried not there and continued on Death came by while you were asleep Hindered not by the bustle of caregivers' feet His silence a roar drowning out all sound Death came by while you were asleep Unseen by all till he found his appointed Who welcomed him gladly with open arms Death came by while you were asleep Dozens of pink flamingos stood silent witness as a thin man dressed in black Transferred a shroud into his van nearby where a fountain played Death came by while you were asleep And later as the golems and shriekers of night stood in line for their meds A demented man in a wheelchair counted his fingers Death came by while you were asleep He's piloting a ship through a vast sea of stars Ferrying souls to their next destination 6/14/2018 I've seen, heard, and yes, smelled the ecosystem of death of many well intentioned nursing homes... don't let your loved ones go there unless it's the absolute last option. Ta ! (short for tarradiddle), tailor